I haven’t been able to read the whole discussion but I want to share my understanding after reading the first few posts.
Torque is measured in Nm, that means it is independent of force or distance.
Just like speed is measured in m/s, meaning it is independent of time or distance.
In other words, knowing the speed, you don’t know the distance traveled or the time. And similarly, knowing torque, you don’t know the diameter of the wheel or the force produced.
I think most people use the term torque to describe the actual force. I.e. we know the diameter of a wheel and the torque of the motor, how zippy it feels.
i think it’s fair to use it this way IF one off the variable is controlled. For example, talking about the same zippiness (acceleration force), I can say a bigger wheel has more torque. Or for the same wheel diameter, more zippiness means more torque.